YOU need to accept that you deserve success. Accept that you have something quantifiable to deliver to this world.
Every day I see people sabotaging their own success. I’ve seen it in clients and Ive seen it in coaches. Human beings thrive comfort and when you’ve spent your life overweight or financially struggling, as crazy as it sounds, people get scared of altering that dynamic. They know they want something but they’re scared of what it will come with and the changes that it’ll enforce. Both scenarios will change peoples lives……people FEAR change even if its that which they want.
Often you’re not procrastinating. You’re applying the proverbial brakes, stopping yourself moving away from your comfort zone too quickly.
When I hear coaches tell people ‘It’s because they don’t want it enough’ it’s often far from the truth. People are scared what ‘it’ is going to bring with it.
When you lose weight your social circles and friends change. They have too. The people that no longer align with your goals, beliefs and choices. The people that no longer relate to you. Along that journey people will watch as you achieve what they want to achieve. Many, sadly will resent you for this. Again, just human nature unfortunately. Some people will love to watch you succeed and other will love to watch you fail.
Something I can’t quantify or validate but based on my own observations and experiences. I’ve never met anyone hugely successful who resented the success of others. More often than not I’ve witnessed this inbuilt desire to help others progress and move forward. Never trying to pull people backwards to get ahead. Constantly however looking to change the pace of the game so to speak.
My next sentence for some of you will sound strange and if it does you probably need to address your own mindset.
I want to see my competitors do well.
They drive, much like I do the ‘industry’ and they’re a huge catalyst to how the industry progresses. In only the past few years I’ve watched all those that tried to pull down other peoples foundations drop and fall by the wayside again and again. Spending their own valuable time trying to knock down other peoples walls whilst their own sat there unbuilt and unfinished.
Maybe it’s just what I’ve seen and maybe I’m blinkered but as you’re reading this I hope you realise I’ve written it because whoever you are and whatever you can offer, I believe in YOU. Quite possibly more than you believe in yourself. I may not even know you and that is the cold hard truth. I teach, thats the main thing I do and have done for most of my life. If I don’t believe in the capacity of the people I teach whats the point.