By default it’s something people largely fall or get into because of insecurities or their need to ‘look’ better. Very few people get into it through other channels and if they do, again by default the spoils of social media and necessity for adoration are far less of a pre-requisite.
There are a plethora of coaches who once upon a time were overweight, bullied and for large proportions of their lives had little attention focused on their achievements or complimented about the simple things in life.
It’s riddled with egos and egotistical behaviour. Opinions of opinionated people and people who, by their competitive nature hate to be wrong and if they genuinely are their fragile egos struggle to backtrack or admit that fact.
Maybe I’m speculating….maybe I just see behaviours that are isolated to my blinkered view of the industry. Maybe I’m wrong and if I am I will backtrack and admit I am.
Once upon a time I wouldn’t have done that. That’s how I know the behaviour, see it, acknowledge it and am writing about it now.
Because it irks me somewhat, it saddens me more so.
The bullied have become the bullies.
They’ve taken behaviours that for a large amount of their lives they were on the receiving end of and now, given a position of power and authority have decided that bullying and abusing others is now all of a sudden ‘OK’.
Now, you can wrap it up however you see fit or validate it in any way but the endless onslaught of abuse directed towards someone eventually just gets perceived by people for what it truly is.
People are leaving the industry, correction, good people are leaving the fitness industry because they’re terrified that they’ll end up on the end of this. They fail to make any type of impact as they’re afraid to speak. They’re afraid that they’re going to get bullied, picked on, called out or publicly shamed.
I run an academy that has in excess of 3000 coaches across over 40 countries and the biggest hurdle most of them have is exactly this. The fear that has been created by the ‘industry’.
People who have came from the same place you perhaps once did. One in which they’re a little emotionally fragile to personal attacks.
Now this is merely my opinion but how I see it…….
It’s our responsibility firstly to be professional in our conduct.
It’s our responsibility to be able to discuss, disseminate, filter, collate and bring together science, experience and knowledge.
It’s our responsibility to beg questions when questions need to be asked. If people’s conduct or use of information requires questioning, question it. Not argue but debate, discuss and conclude. In the absence of conclusion it may just in some cases become a matter of differing beliefs and opinions.
If you want to align people with your beliefs or opinions you’re maybe in the wrong profession and in doing so you take away one of the human beings most unique traits. The ability to form their own opinions or beliefs and to enable free thinking.
If the only way you can see to create an audience is to leverage a ‘playground fight’ that you instigated maybe you’re just lacking in ideas?
Maybe the industry needs a shake up in many ways. There IS misinformation and it would be a gross oversight or ignorant to think there wasn’t. How we deal with it becomes reflective of us and the people we are.
I’ve been in this industry a long long time. Longer than most. I love this industry in so many ways but at times I hate and despise the antics within it. To the point I become embarrassed that I’m part of it.
Stop with the playground nonsense I implore you. You’re all better than that and remember where you came from. Why you’re here and focus on that.
Ps. Again if you’re reading this and think it’s about you it isn’t. That’s a reflection of your own self importance.
However by simple default if you think it is…..well it is.