The psychological implications surrounding your faith in what you do is huge. The belief that no matter what you do, it won’t work. Consciously or sub-consciously this belief alters behaviours in such a way that it supports it. People self-sabotage their own efforts for many reasons. A deep rooted belief that they won’t succeed or one that they don’t deserve the outcome is common.
I recall many years ago learning to ride a motorbike. Lessons were learned that day. I attempted several times to perform a U-turn in a narrow road. Each time failing to turn quick enough, running the motorcycle wide and hitting the kerb. I also recall an advanced driving course I did and a similar message being conveyed.
You see the problem was that in both cases I was looking at the road ahead of me. I was looking where I was going.
Now, I hear you saying that’s correct.
The reason I couldn’t make the turn in the road is I was looking at the road in front of me and not my destination. In the case of the motorcycle, if I changed my viewpoint to where I wanted to be, not where I was going I would actually make the turn successfully. In the case of driving, I was taught that my viewpoint needed to change to not only the road ahead of me but my destination after that and the traffic several vehicles ahead.
In both cases, if an obstacle was in my way evading it revolved around looking around the obstacle not AT it. Something that was much more difficult than it seemed.
People focus too much on the road imminently in-front of them instead of their destination. They also focus on obstacles as opposed to how to get around them.